Don’t Throw in The Towel Too Soon - KEEP GOING!
I recently posted 6 Quick Hacks to Take Your Workout Up a Notch…. Basically I talk about when you hit a plateau in your workouts and the things you can do to bust through and keep going and growing. Feel free to check it out.
That post led me to think….
...Could this also be true for self growth and mental toughness? 🤔
Do people “plateau” when it comes to their personal growth?
Unfortunately, I think the reality is more people quit when the going gets tough, than truly fight for change. I am on a mission to change that.
If you are on a self love, self growth, self “I wanna be the best I can be” journey, but you’re at a place where you feel like nothing is changing … and maybe, like your workouts, you find yourself plateauing….
Know that I see you… I get you… I was you.
My message today: Keep Going!
If you’re reading this and you find you’re in a place where you just want to give up, because you feel like things aren’t changing fast enough… KEEP GOING!
If you have been working on your “inner game” and yet you find yourself questioning if it’s even working or not… KEEP GOING!!
If you feel like ALL the things you’ve been doing… all of the tools you’ve started using… All of the growth you’ve been making ….STILL HASN’T GOT YOU TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE MENTALLY & EMOTIONALLY….
PLEEEAASEEEE…. KEEP GOING!!
I promise you it’ll be worth it. I know, because I’ve been exactly where you are. I’ve been on my own personal journey to find inner peace for a couple of years now and I’ve noticed that every once in a while, I come to this point: I almost want to just throw in the towel, and quit.
But somehow I just don’t.
The cool thing is, I’ve started to recognize when I get to this place and I’ve developed ways to get through it. I hope my voice lends you the courage and confidence to KEEP GOING!
1. Sit Quietly and Let the Emotions Come.
I don’t try to push emotions away or avoid them (any more). I let them in and see what’s coming up and even if I don’t know why I’m emotional I just let them go through me. Most of the time it’s just sadness, so I allow myself to cry and I always feel lighter after I let it out.
I used to want to figure out what was making me sad but now I just let it come and go.
Really, these could be emotions that have been trapped in my body for years and I don’t even remember why they are there. DO NOT FIGHT THE EMOTIONS - they will always win!
If you suppress them, they’ll just take up space in your body, mind or cells… and most of the time emotions are HEAVY! So, get good at releasing them. You’ll feel lighter.
Repeat after me: “BRING IT ON!” Invite the emotions in, without having to control them or avoid them.
2. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Even if you have days where you feel like giving up, it doesn’t mean you haven’t made any progress. It’s totally normal to get frustrated, but even if you can't see it, you really have made progress. So KEEP GOING and don’t be so tough on yourself.
Sometimes we have to take a step back to go a few steps further. Be patient with yourself and know that you’re going in the right direction. Having compassion and patience come in handy here.
This is a huge one for me. I’m a competitive person and I feel that if I’ve put in the hard work and energy into something there will be a reward when it’s done. This is true to some extent but it can happen slowly. It’s not like training for a boxing competition and then winning a medal after it’s done. The mental & emotional rewards tend to come slowly but they last a lifetime.
Create a mini empowerment statement or affirmation to say to yourself when you find you are being just a bit too hard on yourself. You can say something like, “I am doing my best and the universe is conspiring on my behalf… I just gotta keep going” (and think of me cheering you on energetically, as you do this!).
3. Journal How You’re Feeling.
Sometimes it helps to just write down everything that’s going on in your mind. Just to get it out of your head. This helps me get clarity on what’s actually frustrating me. It really helps to express all your thoughts and emotions without worrying about anyone judging you. Most of the time I end up being my own therapist and I feel better about everything after.
4. Call a Friend You Trust.
If you feel comfortable enough to show your emotional side to someone this can be a great way to feel better fast. Our friends remind us of all the progress we have made that we can’t see when we are in our emotional state. So if you have someone like this call them.
5. Look Back to Where You Were.
When we feel down we tend to focus on the negative and forget about all that we have accomplished. If you actually look back and see all the changes you’ve made since you started your journey it puts things in perspective… and a shift in perspective can change it all. Really look at how far you’ve come and celebrate! You’re kind of awesome right?
I can’t emphasize enough how exercise has been my rock. Sometimes we just need a good workout to make us feel better. It’s a great way to relieve stress, release negative energy, and clear your mind. A good shot of endorphins can help with painful emotions and put you back into a positive state of mind. The research shows that there is a strong connection between the mental game and physical game… so keep playing! Create a workout plan that you get excited to commit to and begin at once. Get outside at least once / day also, so adding walking to your schedule will help to break through that next level mental challenge.
7. Take a Shower or Bath.
There’s nothing like washing off negative energy. It feels so good to wash your face, body and hair and get out of your old clothes and put on fresh new ones. You can even do your hair and put on a little makeup to feel better about yourself. (but let’s not get too crazy here? LOL). Go run a bath and relax. Throw on some gentle music or a guided meditation and light up your favourite candle. I promise you’ll feel good.
8. Allow Yourself To Take The Day Off.
If all else fails, give yourself a break. Don’t read, journal or workout. Let yourself just do nothing. Order sushi, watch a movie, zone out to tiktok dances… look at where you would want to travel next or even homes you would like to live in. Whatever allows your mind to rest or feel good without “doing the work.”
Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves and then get frustrated because we’re not where we think we should be. Tell yourself you’re not going to think or do anything today and that you will start fresh tomorrow. Enjoy the space you created!
I hope this helps. I’ve read in so many books that we feel like giving up just before a breakthrough, change or when something amazing is about to happen. I try to remember that now before throwing in the towel and just keep going. I invite you to do the same.
Take a deep breath in and decide that “something great is happening” and KEEP GOING!!
What is your #1 POSITIVE thing you do to shift your energy when you feel like quitting? What from my suggestions will you now try?
In Your Corner ~ jB.